tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post4448632514961025047..comments2024-03-20T04:03:44.268-04:00Comments on MyBrownBaby: Black Moms and Ghetto Parents: They Are NOT One in the SameMBB Founder and Editor Denene Millnerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17413819770146273768noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-26186825835994593062014-03-23T12:56:16.892-04:002014-03-23T12:56:16.892-04:00Huh? This column itself is race-baiting and racis...Huh? This column itself is race-baiting and racist. Who says ghetto = black? The CST column doesn't say that at all. Sounds like Brown Mom has Brown Chip on her shoulder. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-22937139680263659922012-07-13T09:07:54.521-04:002012-07-13T09:07:54.521-04:00Lol to all the people who fail to acknowledge this...Lol to all the people who fail to acknowledge this "ghetto parents" epidemic going on. First and foremost, there is such as thing as good and bad parenting. Now when I say bad parenting, I am not talking about parents who make mistakes or does not always does right for their child/children. Everyone makes mistakes, including parents. What I mean by bad parenting is mother and/or Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-10338824411381569332010-08-23T17:00:26.748-04:002010-08-23T17:00:26.748-04:00Latoya, I respect your argument, as I too hate lab...Latoya, I respect your argument, as I too hate labels, but as the daughter of a woman who was a drug addict and an alcoholic, I have to disagree with it. There is without a doubt, such a thing as "bad and good parenting". Let's just call it what it is. Just as there is good and evil in this world. My mother beat me and my siblings, she humiliated us and caused us so much pain, that Glorianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-81118560112656937792010-07-15T00:40:14.611-04:002010-07-15T00:40:14.611-04:00@Nick: Actually, the data does not show a direct l...@Nick: Actually, the data does not show a direct link between parent involvement in school and student achievement. What it shows is that middle-class children, whose parents have the time and resources to devote to being in the classroom, volunteering, etc, are rewarded by teachers over their working class and poor peers. Read Lareau's "Unequal Childhoods" - not a perfect study, LaToyahttp://cocoamamas.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-20910169785898410692010-07-14T23:48:58.790-04:002010-07-14T23:48:58.790-04:00I'm just shaking my head at the ignorance. An...I'm just shaking my head at the ignorance. And I must say that as a teacher parents missing from their children's academic lives come in all shapes, sizes and colors! Parent-teacher night over the past few years has dwindled to the point of "why are we doing this if the parents aren't showing up?"<br /><br />TV, video games, cell phones, and computers are raising today'Chocolate Mom aka Blupoetreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00645166301449951483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-6394225923277954652010-07-14T16:12:27.234-04:002010-07-14T16:12:27.234-04:00When someone says ghetto I don't take offense ...When someone says ghetto I don't take offense and I think thats where a lot of people go wrong. When you take offense you take whatever it was that offended you and hold on to. Let it go, I'm black but that's not who I am. If someone wants to paint black people in a certain light warranted or not If it doesn't apply to me, then I don't apply it. I grew up mostly around white Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17117553583481789778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-6924008161750268972010-07-14T15:28:40.246-04:002010-07-14T15:28:40.246-04:00This is the first time that I have read your blog,...This is the first time that I have read your blog, I found your link via Twitter today.<br /><br />I want to start by saying that I have not read the article that you are referring to at all nor do I know the person that wrote this, so this is only my opinion based on what your post says.<br /><br />Being a bad parent has nothing to do with race...that is true, we are all, no matter what the Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08417143480544776503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-53788081351224272892010-07-14T14:51:04.633-04:002010-07-14T14:51:04.633-04:00Rashida,
I think you missed the point I was makin...Rashida,<br /><br />I think you missed the point I was making. I wasn't bashing Georgia; I was making a comparison between two places where my family has lived since I became a mom. I mentioned NJ because we didn't have proximity to poor and white working class people there; those are the neighborhoods no person of color wants to get caught in—day or night. In fact, the few times I did MBB Founder and Editor Denene Millnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17413819770146273768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-43491473632057542922010-07-14T13:28:06.050-04:002010-07-14T13:28:06.050-04:00I agree with your stance on bad parenting vs. &quo...I agree with your stance on bad parenting vs. "ghetto parenting" but what was the point of mentioning New Jersey vs. Georgia. The events you mentioned could have taken place Anywhere, USA. I get tired of people moving to GA only to bash it when they get there and continue to stay. I don't think this tidbit was necessary to make your point. Are you considering going back to New Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02711039241870120910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-39373967257735471352010-07-14T13:16:50.345-04:002010-07-14T13:16:50.345-04:00I live in a prodominately white county that's...I live in a prodominately white county that's sprinkled with upper and lower middle class families depending on the area. I assure you what you've described is color blind.<br /><br />We really need to stop using the term "ghetto" when describing ill behavior. The media has taken derogatory terms and have made them acceptable verbiage. It's not acceptable and I'm sickAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-46114274098840338172010-07-14T12:38:57.526-04:002010-07-14T12:38:57.526-04:00It's a dang shame that you had to take to your...It's a dang shame that you had to take to your keyboard to write up a post explaining the difference. Mitchell's article just shows that you can be smart and ignorant at the same time. I hate to see some people further their careers by peddling stereotypes of their own peopleAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08700057904506855793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-67620549168230496082010-07-14T11:41:40.008-04:002010-07-14T11:41:40.008-04:00I grew up in the Lower Eastside of New York City. ...I grew up in the Lower Eastside of New York City. Not rich at all, some may say we lived in poverty. But, my parents had my sister and I together, clean, and never talking back. Poverty in some (or many) cases are not because they can't do better, they don't want to do better, whether it is black, white, or otherwise. Bad parenting is just that, and unfortunately because races still are Jacqueline Lewisnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-70140787400721254882010-07-14T11:34:00.457-04:002010-07-14T11:34:00.457-04:00LaToya,
I have to push back on your pushback. Ther...LaToya,<br />I have to push back on your pushback. There were many things that our parents didn't do that we have now come to describe as "bad" parenting. We didn't have car seats and boosters when I was little, but we've come to realize that such behavior is extremely dangerous and life-threatening. Our parents smoked around us like chimney—until smoking was revealed to be Nicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-48854458579583919522010-07-14T11:32:33.244-04:002010-07-14T11:32:33.244-04:00Call it what it is - POOR PARENTING! There are lo...Call it what it is - POOR PARENTING! There are lots of parents parenting their children regardless of race, economic situation, etc. Stop making excuses for the lack of parenting and call it what it is...POOR PARENTING. Mitchell is correct in saying "I know some of you will be offended by my word choice." However, she is incorrect in stating that "ghetto parenting is the only Tomi Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05561420112652542706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-82767820216134392612010-07-14T11:30:28.255-04:002010-07-14T11:30:28.255-04:00W.O.W! Bad parenting knows no boundaries, race or...W.O.W! Bad parenting knows no boundaries, race or economic status. Very sloppy, Mitchell!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05519913175572885713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-90705098445594139582010-07-14T09:06:15.982-04:002010-07-14T09:06:15.982-04:00How about labeling it "bad parenting" wh...How about labeling it "bad parenting" which is what it is. Sad to see sensationalism in such a much needed to be addressed topic!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-9372611306559025452010-07-14T07:52:36.260-04:002010-07-14T07:52:36.260-04:00Wow. Just wow. I think what really strikes me is t...Wow. Just wow. I think what really strikes me is that beyond the writer's clear prejudice that no one else in the publishing process...a supervisor, an editor, anyone! stopped it either. No one thought, "hey maybe labeling this behavior as 'ghetto' is a) racist and b) missing the point. I think that the phrase she SHOULD have used is 'poverty parenting'. No doubt what _https://www.blogger.com/profile/16045401564948651914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-13203031210656242232010-07-14T07:50:03.448-04:002010-07-14T07:50:03.448-04:00You hit it on the head. The examples often used by...You hit it on the head. The examples often used by the media to express the state of parenting in many communities in our country tend to be charged with "racial" indication making it easier for those who fall outside those defined perimeters to never question their own behavior or the behavior of those around them. And the media is always quick to identify whether the "abusive&Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18176109795167713603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-18116616560933818382010-07-14T01:46:46.642-04:002010-07-14T01:46:46.642-04:00Thank you. She tries - I believe in the comments -...Thank you. She tries - I believe in the comments - to say that she wasn't just talking about Black moms, but....really?? Using an example of black kids and a black mom that lives in housing projects in Chicago?? Puh-lease. <br /><br />I would, however, also push back on what you are calling "bad" parenting, though. Most of what you're talking about are not inherently "good&LaToyahttp://cocoamamas.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-17040810515769819242010-07-14T01:17:32.323-04:002010-07-14T01:17:32.323-04:00You nailed it. Bad parenting is colorblind. Shame ...You nailed it. Bad parenting is colorblind. Shame on Mitchell.Melanie Sheridanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04100313047776018999noreply@blogger.com