tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post8414380604744027107..comments2024-03-20T04:03:44.268-04:00Comments on MyBrownBaby: My Brown Barbies Are BeautifulMBB Founder and Editor Denene Millnerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17413819770146273768noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-14464854425243718952010-09-06T21:58:30.167-04:002010-09-06T21:58:30.167-04:00It is a dilemma for sure. I want to ONLY buy my d...It is a dilemma for sure. I want to ONLY buy my daughter brown dolls and while she has many, she also has white dolls because she wanted them as well. I try not to get crazy about it, but it's hard. Recently she wanted a shirt in the Boden catalog that had a girl on it...the girl was white with brown hair. There were two other shirts like that one...one had an Asian-looking girl (straightFunkidivagirlhttp://funkidivagirl.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-48506230721392243302010-09-06T09:13:31.226-04:002010-09-06T09:13:31.226-04:00One person (a parent) up against the influence of ...One person (a parent) up against the influence of a whole society (television, movies, print media, advertisements) that still affirms a more European beauty standard will always have a challenge. However, as others have said, it shouldn't stop you from continuing your efforts and leading by example. The best way to show a child that Black is beautiful is to continue to live the life a Rabinhttp://www.rabinnickens.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-70029302396793180402010-09-03T17:44:18.813-04:002010-09-03T17:44:18.813-04:00Thank you ladies--all of you--for your encourageme...Thank you ladies--all of you--for your encouragement on my article. I am glad to see that as long as I keep pointing her in the right direction, her self-esteem won't be compromised. Blessings to you.Daree Allenhttp://dareesinsights.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-49783815954098093182010-09-03T11:24:58.304-04:002010-09-03T11:24:58.304-04:00Sister,
Start as you mean to go on. My now 23 y...Sister, <br /><br />Start as you mean to go on. My now 23 year old daughter only ever had black dolls, really hard to find in London in the 1980's. But, I was insistent that she recognised that Black is beautiful, and praise be to God, she had grown up loving her blackness, and proud of her beauty. Persist. <br /><br />You're doing a good job.<br /><br />Sis. DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-8411042565494838232010-09-02T16:55:23.578-04:002010-09-02T16:55:23.578-04:00Our two year old (brown baby) recently said Daddy&...Our two year old (brown baby) recently said Daddy's a 'black man' and I replied 'yes, and Mummy's a black lady and you're a black girl'. She replied 'i'm not a black girl!'..and seemed to be VERY assertive about it. She even said 'I don't want to be a black girl'. She is TWO YEARS OLD. Granted, she is at the age where she contradicts herself, Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11531255491206610252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-80026146148767375452010-09-02T16:44:12.790-04:002010-09-02T16:44:12.790-04:00I have been there too. My daughter gave me the sam...I have been there too. My daughter gave me the same answer last year, she was 4 at the time. It bothered me and I let it worry me for a while. But I decided not to make a big deal of it. I have only purchased brown dolls for her and have even persuaded her from a white doll purchase to a brown doll once or twice. But I don't get a good feeling from doing that because I haven't let her Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09336948357053062267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-47573403279678662102010-09-02T16:34:00.313-04:002010-09-02T16:34:00.313-04:00I have three daughters. The oldest is 16 and the y...I have three daughters. The oldest is 16 and the youngest is 8. With my oldest, my aunt and grandmother would only buy dolls and babies that looked like us. With my 8 year old I let her pick. She likes to pick out dolls from all the ethnic groups. To her they all are beautiful and different. All my girls know that black is beautiful though. When I explained to them how special it was to have a 1stopmomhttp://1stopmom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-51397573295984083382010-09-02T15:39:56.305-04:002010-09-02T15:39:56.305-04:00As moms, we try so hard to instill positive self-e...As moms, we try so hard to instill positive self-esteem in our girls, and then they say something like, "I don't like brown dolls," and we think we've failed. You have NOT failed! Just keep showing her healthy, positive images; keep giving her books with brown characters, keep taking her to movies with brown actors (hard, I know); just keep on keepin' on.Angela at Neglected Princesshttp://www.neglectedprincess.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-22962796356764880082010-09-02T12:10:32.937-04:002010-09-02T12:10:32.937-04:00My 3-year-old, who is white, prefers the "cho...My 3-year-old, who is white, prefers the "chocolate-colored" babies. I don't know why she chose that term, but because she said it with love, I chose not to lecture her about it.<br /><br />I don't pretend to have ever walked a day in a black mother's shoes, but it is possible that this was just about which doll looked prettier that day. In any event, what I love about Shay-Zeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12244548966423050565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-6934508346428956322010-09-02T11:18:33.438-04:002010-09-02T11:18:33.438-04:00How we define beauty for our kids, especially for ...How we define beauty for our kids, especially for our girls is such a tricky thing. So many women are transforming the universal ideal of beauty to include multiple body shapes, skin tones and colors, ages, hair textures and styles, etc.; but after generations of being fed beauty standards that exclude the things we try to embrace today, there's still a lot of progress to be made.<br /><br /Kristi Bookerhttp://www.mycarab.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6386759355610512412.post-28971795089429603302010-09-02T11:01:19.907-04:002010-09-02T11:01:19.907-04:00I know exactly what you mean! My beautiful brown b...I know exactly what you mean! My beautiful brown baby (she's 7 too) has leaned toward the blonde Barbies and baby dolls for however long she's played with dolls. Like you, my response was record screeching with a reactive response of, "Why?!" Her silence and perplexed look let me know that she wasn't thinking of the deeper implications of her choice (as I was). She just Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02503150701367158367noreply@blogger.com